Being single is difficult for many people. You reach a point in your life when you feel like you have no one but yourself. It can affect your emotional, physical, and mental health. But being alone does not have to be the equivalent of being lonely. As Oscar Wilde once said: “I think it’s very healthy to spend time alone. You need to know how to be alone and not be defined by another person”. After spending five years in a relationship, I've realized there are many amazing things about being single.
You are alone, there is no one but you. Now, that may be terrifying at first, but it is also liberating. There is no one to tell you what to do. As they say, the ball is in your court; it's your move. You are in charge and you make your own decisions. No one else will do it for you, and you don’t have to worry about collateral damage. You want to go on a trip? Pack your bags and go! You will always be there for you. You are your best listener and confidante. You are your best friend and family. You can go out and not worry about trying to convince someone to go with you. It isn't about someone else's agenda, do what you want.
Since you are in charge, you have no one to tell you who you should be. This is your opportunity to discover who you are. Not only is the journey exciting, but you are closer to becoming the person you truly are. The closer you become, the more you realize you aren’t a collection of other people or what they think of you. You are not who everyone wants you to be. You are who you want to be. Be the best you — no excuses, explanations, or apologies necessary. The more you spend time with yourself, the more you focus on yourself and realize how you have your back. As they say, “If you don’t love yourself, no one will”. The best relationship you can have is with yourself.
There is no one to tell you what to do, but there is also no one to tell you what you cannot do. Being alone allows you to focus on yourself and discover your true potential. The ceiling that at first seemed suffocating, is now made of glass and you are breaking through it. You realize that you can achieve more than you ever imagined. Never be sorry for wanting more for yourself, and if you really do feel like you’re at rock bottom, just remember you can only continue going up from here.
Once you realize what you can achieve, you are unstoppable. You can begin to push yourself to move forward. Even if you fail, you just have to continue pushing. Nothing and no one is holding you back. This is your own life and you must chase your own happiness. If you can do it alone, then you can do it always.
You slowly start to remember those who have always been there for you: those characters from books, movies, and television shows have never let you down. When you were happy or sad, they were always there. You have experienced every possible emotion with them. They do not judge you and they never get tired of you. They will not grow up and leave you and you can always count on them. So watch your favorite shows, escape into your favorite books, relive your favorite movies. And though you may feel like it, you are never truly alone.
It is not the end of the world. You will find new friends. You will fall in love again. You will create your own family. But you will hurt again and people will continue to let you down, and that’s okay. You will become a stronger, well-rounded individual. You will discover who you are and what you can do. It will help you value the little things and realize you are important. Because you are not going to be alone forever, you are simply alone right now…and that’s okay.
You are alone, there is no one but you. Now, that may be terrifying at first, but it is also liberating. There is no one to tell you what to do. As they say, the ball is in your court; it's your move. You are in charge and you make your own decisions. No one else will do it for you, and you don’t have to worry about collateral damage. You want to go on a trip? Pack your bags and go! You will always be there for you. You are your best listener and confidante. You are your best friend and family. You can go out and not worry about trying to convince someone to go with you. It isn't about someone else's agenda, do what you want.
Since you are in charge, you have no one to tell you who you should be. This is your opportunity to discover who you are. Not only is the journey exciting, but you are closer to becoming the person you truly are. The closer you become, the more you realize you aren’t a collection of other people or what they think of you. You are not who everyone wants you to be. You are who you want to be. Be the best you — no excuses, explanations, or apologies necessary. The more you spend time with yourself, the more you focus on yourself and realize how you have your back. As they say, “If you don’t love yourself, no one will”. The best relationship you can have is with yourself.
There is no one to tell you what to do, but there is also no one to tell you what you cannot do. Being alone allows you to focus on yourself and discover your true potential. The ceiling that at first seemed suffocating, is now made of glass and you are breaking through it. You realize that you can achieve more than you ever imagined. Never be sorry for wanting more for yourself, and if you really do feel like you’re at rock bottom, just remember you can only continue going up from here.
Once you realize what you can achieve, you are unstoppable. You can begin to push yourself to move forward. Even if you fail, you just have to continue pushing. Nothing and no one is holding you back. This is your own life and you must chase your own happiness. If you can do it alone, then you can do it always.
You slowly start to remember those who have always been there for you: those characters from books, movies, and television shows have never let you down. When you were happy or sad, they were always there. You have experienced every possible emotion with them. They do not judge you and they never get tired of you. They will not grow up and leave you and you can always count on them. So watch your favorite shows, escape into your favorite books, relive your favorite movies. And though you may feel like it, you are never truly alone.
It is not the end of the world. You will find new friends. You will fall in love again. You will create your own family. But you will hurt again and people will continue to let you down, and that’s okay. You will become a stronger, well-rounded individual. You will discover who you are and what you can do. It will help you value the little things and realize you are important. Because you are not going to be alone forever, you are simply alone right now…and that’s okay.
